You Can Actually Trust These 15 Affirmations About Trust

I can’t read minds, all I can do is trust a person’s words and ask for clarification if I’m unsure of my interpretation. Evidence of trustworthiness is valuable to recognize. I don’t have to trust everyone all the time, but it’s unsustainable to never trust anyone. There are many different levels of trust, a small …

Symbols of Presentation

Our behaviour, dress, habits, these are born of reactions in our inner world. Our self perception and realm of authenticity is influenced and expressed by a set of external symbols— representations of more complex subjects. Eye contact is symbolic, wearing jewelry is symbolic, our accent, inflections, our routine, our addictions, these outwardly simple expressions reference …

The Substantial Presence of Love

Love is a potent experience of positive attachment. It is an intensity of being. A bond, a state, an emotion, a thought, an instinct, and much more, affection encompasses many ‘metaphysical substances’. It is a substance which fills these intangible but descriptive nouns, these words which become vessels for love to exist within. It is …

Talking About Resting

There is no right time to rest, our bodies tell us. We’ve been taught to ignore our needs for the sake of being ‘productive’. The value is placed upon what we can offer a capitalist system-- it’s time to un-normalize the exploitation of people who need rest the most. Responsibility falls upon all of us …

Having the Difficult Conversations

You’re telling someone about a trauma, the person you’re speaking to didn’t know it occurred and maybe was in your life at the time it happened. You worry they might feel guilty or extrapolate that you blame them. Here are some tips to keeping the conversational flow and giving subtle assurance without spending your energy …

Caring About Others

No one is good, wise, or otherwise aware, if they are not good to others. A person won’t heal if they don’t care about the healing of others. Empathy is a skill that can be practiced and learning to be wrong, and learning to learn, is the only way forward in our development as people. …

Learning to Be Happy Alone

I struggle to have fun on my own. I’m capable, but as experiences are better when I’m with my fiancé, why bother? The answer is because I’m my own person and taking time to have enjoyable moments just with myself is a part of growing and healing as a whole person. Codependency takes many different …

Working Toward the Best

The best is what helps and heals all. Words and actions aligned still will not save the world without awareness of what the world needs.  Practicing empathy skills, understanding that your experience is not every experience, and developing self awareness— we need to put the work into our own lives to inspire these changes in …

Do Your Friends Uplift You?

Social bonds form stabilizing aspects of our lives when built correctly. Like any foundation, this support structure, if it’s terribly faulty then it will crumble upon weight and need to be rebuilt or repaired again and again. We must have a standard for how we’re treated and how we treat others. Are your friends making …

Codependency, Trauma, and Mental Illness

Interpersonal relationships are to be a source of self improvement practices, they ought to leave you feeling fulfilled, well rounded, and secure. These bonds need to be made sustainable if they should endure healthily for many years or a lifetime. Anyone will struggle with balancing relationships but people coping with mental illness or trauma can …