The Triangle: Ending Conflict

Cycles can be found in every corner and dark nook of social interaction and human experience. Conflict easily spins out of control, refusing resolution or self awareness, as participants fall into a specific cycle of roles. A system known as the ‘drama triangle’ by Stephen Karpman has been used with me in therapy numerous times …

Leaving Behind Bad Behaviours

Negative reinforcement won’t work, not really. The key is in the positive. Be compassionate toward yourself because we will fail and it’s important that we fall onto a soft surface. These so-called ‘bad behaviours’ are simply actions that hinder you or clash with your ethics and values. If you want to be better you must …

Alchemy of Self: Calcination Part 2

Caput Corvi doesn’t always involve calcination and calcination doesn’t only occur during Caput Corvi, but destruction must be part of the process. This is the act of separation. Solve et coagula, we take ourselves apart and put ourselves back together. This will be a cycle as humans aren’t simple. We will learn from this first …

Alchemy of Self: Calcination Part 1

We all have our reasons for desiring self improvement, we want to be better, but there’s something to acknowledge first. We don’t improve, we reveal. ‘Wants’ are unnecessary. Already, we’re equipped with greatness, there’s nothing to want that isn’t already a part of you. Our process now is to identify and destroy the things that …