Socratic Method: Coping with Negative Self-Talk

Background chatter pervades our thought processes and for many of us, a prominent voice is one of self deprecatory slander. We’re hardwired by our critical environments to regularly shame ourselves. Any pressure, abuse, or bullying will have installed patterns of self perception that warp into shadows of these traumas, continuing to punish you. “You’re not … Continue reading Socratic Method: Coping with Negative Self-Talk

Codependency, Trauma, and Mental Illness

Interpersonal relationships are to be a source of self improvement practices, they ought to leave you feeling fulfilled, well rounded, and secure. These bonds need to be made sustainable if they should endure healthily for many years or a lifetime. Anyone will struggle with balancing relationships but people coping with mental illness or trauma can … Continue reading Codependency, Trauma, and Mental Illness

Critical Thinking (Not Thinking Critically)

Being fully aware of thoughts and noticing problematic patterns can easily spawn new toxic mentalities. We might imagine it was easier before we were self aware, that we prefer being oblivious. There is technique to be practiced in critical thinking— there are nuances to understanding ourselves and trained compassion. My therapist gave me a phrase … Continue reading Critical Thinking (Not Thinking Critically)

Pros and Cons of Thinking Too Hard

Overthinkers are the anxious eveningtide philosophers. Dusk falls and thoughts roam free. Of course we aren't constrained to thinking too hard just at night— whenever there’s a lull, a liminality, a quiet moment for our inner monologue to fill— but restless thoughts before bed is a fairly universal experience. We wonder, regurgitate, ruminate, theorize, and … Continue reading Pros and Cons of Thinking Too Hard

Why “You’re Handling This Well” Can Be Damaging to Say

After trauma, betrayal, abandonment, sometimes being told you’re good at coping can be debilitating. There is no right way to respond to trauma. There are healthy and unhealthy ways of coping, but assigning ‘good’ to one thing implies the opposite is ‘bad’, often without knowing if that one way was actually healthy to begin with. … Continue reading Why “You’re Handling This Well” Can Be Damaging to Say